Chapter 1: The Essence of Happiness

In the works of Robert Louis Stevenson, particularly in Treasure Island and Strange Case of Dr. Jekyll and Mr. Hyde, he conveys a significant message: "We must embrace happiness; it is our duty to do so. By finding joy, we bring forth unseen advantages to the world." This concept is intriguing: while individual happiness benefits oneself, it also extends its blessings to those nearby. It may initially appear self-centered, but genuine happiness creates a ripple effect, enriching the world in unique and meaningful ways. So, what does your happiness contribute to the world?

Your joy holds immense importance for society at large. A world filled with individuals weighed down by despair cannot advance. Instead, it flourishes with those who are joyful, spirited, and full of vitality. Those who wear gloomy expressions do little to enhance the world. Only the happy, whether their joy is overt or subtle, play a role in the betterment of our society.

Ralph Waldo Emerson, a noted American essayist, lecturer, and poet, shared similar ideas. His thoughts resonate with those of Rabindranath Tagore, who articulated that a true friend loves you despite your imperfections. Emerson expressed a similar sentiment long before Tagore's time: "If you could love me for who I truly am, we would both find greater happiness."

When we initially meet someone and fall in love, we often craft an idealized image of who they ought to be, rather than appreciating their true self. Initially, there are no expectations, but as time progresses, we start imposing conditions: “You shouldn’t do this,” or “You shouldn’t say that.” This leads to mutual disappointment.

There’s a phrase frequently seen in government ads: “Sold as is, where is.” This means you must accept the person for who they are. If you cannot, you have the freedom to walk away. However, expecting someone to change while also seeking their affection is unrealistic. When you first encountered this individual, you did not wish to transform them. If you believe they have changed, consider this: it’s more likely that your perspective has shifted, and you have changed as well.

This is why Emerson stated, "If you can love me for who I am, we shall find happiness."

Fyodor Dostoyevsky, the genius behind Crime and Punishment and The Brothers Karamazov, made a profound observation: "Man tends to dwell on his troubles but seldom counts his joys." When individuals reflect on their past, they often recount their struggles, as if the memories of happiness have faded away. Even in the present, we commonly focus on our concerns, challenges, and obstacles, neglecting the positive aspects of our lives—those things we once lacked or that others might still yearn for.

Even during challenging times, the joys you experience likely surpass your sorrows. Take a moment to ponder this.

Sylvia Plath, the celebrated American poet who tragically passed away at a young age, articulated her own struggles. She once remarked, "I have a choice: to remain perpetually active and joyful, or to be inactive, contemplative, and sorrowful. Alternatively, I can oscillate between these two extremes and risk losing my sanity."

The message is clear: endless introspection isn't necessary. Avoid spending your days mulling over existential queries like, "Who am I?" "What is my purpose?" "Is there a God?" or "What happens after death?" Instead, strive to remain active and keep progressing. Only then can you truly find joy. Some channels may promote relentless self-reflection, yet this can lead to feelings of despair, similar to what Plath experienced despite having a loving family.

If your goal is happiness, release the notion that it is contingent upon certain conditions. Embrace reality as it is and live your life accordingly.

Section 1.1: The Connection Between Happiness and Progress

Your happiness serves as a catalyst for societal advancement. When individuals embrace joy, they create an environment conducive to growth and development.

Subsection 1.1.1: The Transformative Power of Joy

Chapter 2: Moving Beyond Struggles

Reflecting on the joys in your life can significantly enhance your well-being and perspective.