Chapter 1: Understanding the 90-Day Love Diet

As I delve into the "90-Day Love Diet," I find myself contemplating several important questions. No matter how daunting it may seem, having a clear understanding of my motivations can simplify the process significantly.

For the next ninety days, my goal is to dedicate myself entirely to providing love and support, prioritizing Tananarive's needs above my own. However, I realize that my ability to do this for her hinges on my own self-acceptance.

It's essential for me to ground this practice within myself. Here are some reflections on how this endeavor will benefit me:

1. It's challenging for a healthy individual to resist reciprocating love when it's offered selflessly. Thus, I can anticipate an outpouring of love in return.
2. To genuinely offer love, I must connect with that part of me that loves unconditionally. For this connection to thrive, I need to lower my defenses to an unconscious level of competence, more so than I've ever done before.
3. This journey will teach me how to nurture myself more effectively by focusing my attention away from my own worries and instead on a trusted partner.
4. If I were to evaluate my relationship with uncertainty, it would still be beneficial because the worst-case scenario would reveal my partner's inability to give. Nevertheless, I can give freely, and there are many individuals seeking such a connection—provided they love themselves and manage their own insecurities. Denying one’s personal growth and expecting someone else to fulfill that void is misguided. My instincts and emotions will align at a much higher frequency.
5. This experience will cultivate a sense of vitality and creativity within me, enhancing my capacity to embrace life's unpredictability.
6. Will this approach benefit others? According to CORE TRANSFORMATION (NLP Comprehensive in Colorado, founded by Connirae Andreas), all anyone truly seeks is a profound sense of love and connection. You can find a link between even the most despicable behavior and the desire to connect with the Divine or the serenity felt during gestation. By helping even the most troubled individuals tap into this connection, we can fundamentally alter their behavior. I have witnessed the power of love versus fear—what remains when faith and gratitude are stunted—throughout history, both individually and collectively. It resonates deeply. I have yet to encounter a scenario where this insight hasn't proven invaluable. Remember, anger often masks fear, and the core fear lies in the belief that we are unlovable. Experiencing love without conditions can be a profound revelation.
7. Phrases like "I don’t care who you sleep with; just don’t push it on me" or "I don’t care about race; you're the racist if you mention it," reveal a troubling mindset. If we approach this honestly, it suggests a lack of self-love that prevents individuals from confronting their own wounds. This fear of self-examination may stem from the belief that doing so will uncover something unpleasant or result in vulnerability and loss. By beginning with a solid foundation of self-love, we can extend that love to others, effectively mitigating racism, sexism, homophobia, and xenophobia. We often project our unresolved issues onto others.
8. What about the harm inflicted by these toxic perceptions? The oppressed endure profound damage, evident in demographic data regarding life expectancy, infant mortality, incarceration rates, and wealth distribution. This harm extends beyond direct acts of bigotry; it also encompasses the internalized trauma passed through generations. When individuals are repeatedly told they are not valuable, beautiful, or powerful, they carry that burden with them, impacting their health, happiness, and capacity to love. The remedy is self-love, which can be ignited by the acceptance and love of others. For instance, I recently read about individuals contemplating jumping from the Golden Gate Bridge; those who chose not to jump often did so because a single stranger smiled at them. Consider the significance of that moment.

I could elaborate further, and I intend to explore these themes throughout this summer—a summer dedicated to love. The "90-Day Love Diet" will officially commence on July 1st and continue until October 1st. Throughout this period, we’ll discuss how this practice can transform every aspect of our lives and the world around us, inviting you to join me. Can you strive to improve by 1% each week in giving yourself and those around you more love? I believe you can, and if you envision a better life and a better world…

Join us.

Namaste,

Steve

FIREDANCE: THE NEXT LEVEL

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Chapter 2: Insights from the 90-Day Love Challenge

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