Navigating the Noise: Why Ignoring Comments Is Crucial
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Chapter 1: The Dangers of Online Discourse
In today’s digital age, comments sections can often become a breeding ground for negativity. I once dreamt about driving down a road that vanished into a puddle, eventually leading to an expansive sea. Just as the water lapped at the edges of my car, I found myself lost in thought about the harsh realities we face online.
A strange shortage had me searching for Pop Tarts, which led me to a store where a customer made a derogatory remark about the cashier's ethnicity. The cashier's calm demeanor spoke volumes; he had likely endured similar insults countless times. I left feeling regretful for not standing up for him.
As Hurricane Debby bears down on us, NOAA warns of heavy rain. Just the other night, our fitness center was inundated with water, and as I attempted yoga amidst the chaos, I couldn't shake the anxiety of being judged by the maintenance crew, whom I once worked alongside.
There's a tab open on my browser labeled "drought-resistant perennials," as my partner Susan aims to revive our garden. This summer has been the hottest and driest I've ever experienced, and each evening, I return to my car parked on a blistering asphalt lot. The thermometer often reads over a hundred degrees, contrasting sharply with the cooler temperature reported by my office computer. I drive home lamenting another day without cycling.
I managed to read four books this summer, and it feels like I'm finally breaking free from a reading slump. However, I realized that reader's block can be just as challenging as writer's block—each new book feels like an obstacle. From January to April, I struggled through Sonic Life, a memoir by Thurston Moore, founder of Sonic Youth. The book's repetitiveness left me uninspired. While I once enjoyed his ex-wife's memoir, this one felt even less engaging. Despite my admiration for him, I might just sell it on eBay to reclaim space on my shelf.
The prevalence of racism, misogyny, and homophobia continues to sicken me. Despite reading uplifting articles about talented figures like Taylor Swift and Simone Biles, I often sabotage my own mood by diving into the comments. It’s disheartening to witness so much disdain from individuals who should uplift these women rather than belittle them. Why do they feel entitled to criticize those who bring joy to millions?
In the political arena, DEI has become a term shrouded in negativity. The only candidates addressing this issue are Tim Walz and J.D. Vance, two white men selected for their identities rather than their merits. One aims to appeal to gun enthusiasts, while the other represents a misguided effort to attract younger voters. Both seem to cater to fears surrounding the election of a Black woman as president.
I also had a dream of cycling to work, only to arrive without a lock to secure my bike.
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About Jeff Cann
Jeff Cann resides in Gettysburg, Pennsylvania, where he writes and works. His essays and stories have appeared in various publications, delving into mental health, running, and culture. His books, Fragments: a Memoir and Bad Ass — My Quest to Become a Back Woods Trail Runner (and other obsessive goals), are available on Amazon. Jeff is married with two children, and more of his work can be found at www.jefftcann.com.
Section 1.1: The Impact of Negative Comments
The internet can amplify negativity, especially in comment sections. This reality has led many to advocate for ignoring comments altogether, focusing instead on constructive feedback and personal growth.
Subsection 1.1.1: The Consequences of Engaging with Trolls
Section 1.2: Finding Positivity Amidst Negativity
In a world filled with harsh criticism, seeking positivity is essential for mental well-being. Engaging with uplifting content and supportive communities can help counteract the negativity prevalent online.
Chapter 2: Embracing Change and Growth
Why I Don't Read Comments - This video discusses the mental toll of engaging with negative comments online and offers strategies for focusing on positivity.
Don't Read The Comments - This video explores the importance of protecting one's mental health by ignoring harmful comments and concentrating on what truly matters.