Single Individuals Deserve Their Own Medical Specialty
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Chapter 1: The Need for Change in Medical Perspectives
The current medical framework, particularly in gynecology, often assumes that patients are surrounded by nurturing families and that women are destined for motherhood. This outdated perspective needs a significant overhaul.
Recently, I encountered a compassionate doctor affiliated with a prominent medical facility, specializing in “LGBT” health. This designation implies a deep understanding of the unique needs of these patients, reflecting a progressive evolution in medical thought. The removal of "homosexuality" as a formal DSM diagnosis in 1973 marked a pivotal shift, and now it's crucial to advance to the next stage.
“Single” has long been associated with stigma across many cultures. Medical interactions frequently mirror societal norms, presuming that being single equates to a desire for marriage. In reality, numerous individuals choose to remain single and are perfectly content with their lifestyle. Their challenges often arise from societal biases, echoing the struggles once faced by the LGBTQ+ community.
British psychiatrist Anthony Storr, in his 1988 book Solitude: A Return to the Self, noted that while Freud emphasized love and work, psychology predominantly fixates on relationships. Not everyone seeks partnership; some prioritize their careers. Similarly, sociologist Bella DePaulo's 2007 work, Singled Out, challenges the notion that marriage is inherently linked to better mental health. Despite ongoing narratives suggesting that single individuals suffer from loneliness and depression, recent studies, including one on Finnish residents from 1983 to 2019, have cast doubt on these assumptions.
The study examined the correlation between depressive symptoms and marital status but raised questions about whether these symptoms stemmed from social stigma rather than the single status itself. While men appeared to experience more depressive symptoms, older women often reported increased life satisfaction. Unfortunately, many healthcare professionals cling to antiquated beliefs about single individuals.
In Bella DePaulo’s Facebook group, Community of Single People, members frequently share their frustrating experiences with therapists who suggest that entering a relationship would solve their problems. The medical community is no better, particularly in gynecology, which seems to inextricably link being female with childbearing.
Section 1.1: The Need for Specialized Care
If one aspires to be a gynecologist, delivering babies is often a prerequisite, even though women can suffer from various health conditions unrelated to reproduction, such as polyps and cysts. In today's medical landscape, a gynecologist must be adaptable, transitioning from caring for a pregnant woman to addressing the concerns of a single woman with a health issue. This duality poses challenges, as many medical professionals may inadvertently project their values onto patients.
Section 1.2: The Misconceptions of Single Status
When considering mental health evaluations during routine check-ups, there's a tendency to assume that single individuals are inevitably lonely or depressed. The healthcare system operates under the illusion that everyone has a supportive family structure until they reach adulthood, then transitions to assuming they have a partner and grown children.
For instance, before a minor outpatient procedure, I asked for post-operative care instructions but was told I would receive them post-surgery. I needed the information beforehand to prepare adequately. The expectation that I would have someone to assist me post-surgery is unrealistic for many single individuals.
The reality is that around 37 million Americans live alone, representing approximately 28% of the population. This statistic is comparable to the prevalence of knee pain among adults. Yet, hospitals often overlook the needs of single patients.
Chapter 2: The Hospital Experience for Singles
The first video titled "What They DON'T Tell You About Dating as a Doctor | Pros and Cons" explores the unique challenges and perspectives of single individuals in the medical field.
The second video titled "What's the Best Medical Path For You? Doctor Specialties by Enneagram Type" discusses various medical specialties and their relevance to individual needs.
Choosing to be single often relegates individuals to a secondary status within the healthcare system, particularly women. I told my doctor I would avoid hospital admission, preferring outpatient procedures instead.
We need to advocate for a medical specialty focused on single individuals, ensuring healthcare professionals understand our specific needs. Many singles may avoid seeking medical care due to stigma or judgment.
It's crucial for the medical community to recognize that being single doesn't equate to loneliness or a lack of support. Acknowledging and addressing these stereotypes will improve healthcare experiences for single individuals.
In her insightful book, Never Say Die, Susan Jacoby shares a poignant story about a man who chooses to end his life rather than accept a caregiver. This illustrates the profound need for understanding and support for single individuals in medical settings.
In conclusion, it's imperative for healthcare professionals to realize that being alone does not equate to being unloved or friendless. Just as we categorize LGBT individuals, we should also recognize single individuals as a distinct group deserving of tailored medical attention.