Unlocking the Potential of Consent in Leadership
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Chapter 1: The Importance of Consent in Leadership
If you're at the helm of a team, pay attention! I'm about to share a crucial insight that can elevate your leadership game: the value of seeking permission. I've stumbled in this area more than once during my career.
What I neglected to consider was whether I had permission to coach. It turns out that seeking consent isn't just a lesson for children sharing toys; it can significantly transform your leadership approach. Let’s explore three surprising reasons why asking "May I?" can make you the go-to leader.
Section 1.1: The Urge to Jump In
When you step into your role as a manager, it’s easy to feel the urge to share your knowledge and solve problems immediately. That was my mindset when I first took charge of a radio station in Cardiff at the tender age of 26—my motto was to fix everything. But hold on—let's delve into the true potential of seeking consent.
Subsection 1.1.1: Respect as a Catalyst for Engagement
I recall the excitement of getting my first smartphone, eager to explore its features. However, when my Aunt Mildred barged in to help me set it up, I was left feeling frustrated instead of empowered. This scenario mirrors how your team feels when you intervene without invitation. By asking for permission to coach, you show respect, creating a reciprocal desire for engagement.
Section 1.2: Building Trust
Trust is the foundation of effective coaching. Without it, your efforts might as well be directed at a brick wall. Through years of coaching radio and TV presenters, I learned that trust is paramount.
Once, I had a supervisor who monitored everything I did, making it feel like I was under constant scrutiny. However, when he finally asked for my consent before offering advice, it was as if a barrier had been lifted. When you seek permission, you’re communicating that you believe your team is capable of making wise decisions. This fosters trust and boosts their engagement dramatically.
Chapter 2: The Path to Self-Discovery
I once coached a radio presenter who was determined to eliminate her habit of saying "err" on air. A simple question, "Is this a good time to discuss your radio show?" changed the dynamic entirely. I discovered that she was more receptive at different times of the day, leading us to find the optimal moments for our coaching sessions.
This small gesture of consent opened the door for her to share insights about her work style, ultimately guiding her to self-discovery—a true treasure!
Rethink Educational Power Dynamics through Consent | An interview with Sophie Christophy - This insightful video explores the critical role of consent in educational settings, emphasizing its importance in leadership.
CBIM Training Video 7: Consent - This training video delves into the principles of consent in coaching, illustrating how it can enhance team dynamics and personal growth.
Action Plan
Are you prepared to embrace this powerful practice? The next time you're eager to share your insights, pause and ask for permission—“May I coach you?”
When you seek consent, you cultivate respect and build trust, while also empowering your team to uncover their own insights. So, bite your tongue and ask that golden question—watch the transformation unfold!
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